Kate

1. For me, loneliness is...

Being alone means being with people but not belonging to them. It’s knowing you have no connections with them. When other people spend time with their families and you’re left alone, it is doubly painful.

2. The last time I was alone...

Two weeks ago I was wandering through town on a Sunday, watching families and groups of friends spending time together. I didn’t want the people I loved to be that far away; I just didn’t want to be lonely. I’d love to be able to walk like that with my husband and son. Even something as simple as ordering one coffee for myself reminded me how much I longed to walk like that with my husband and son.

3. What helps you cope with loneliness, or what has helped you in the past?

​

 My son. When I’m lonely I can’t resist giving him a hug, and it always helps. We must not neglect the good. Be adventurous, be inspired, discover people, don’t retreat to your cloister or allow yourself to give in to the hurt.

4. What message would you like to share with others?

Don’t pity yourself — it’s an automatic path to your demise. Human beings are remarkably resilient, capable of surviving almost anything. It’s just a matter of starting and if you don’t feel like doing it yourself, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Anyone can be weak and miserable once in a while. You’d be surprised by the number of nice people and wonderful careers waiting for you.