Aliona

1. For me, loneliness is...

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The saddest part of loneliness for me is losing those you loved and cared about. It’s a way of dealing with memories — of the times when everyone used to sit around the table and there is only one person left. I treasure those that are left, but I miss the touch, the hands of the woman who raised me all her life – my mother. It leaves only a gaping hole that God can fill.

 

2. The last time I felt lonely was...

 

The last time I’d felt alone was when I went to London by myself and knew no one here.

 

3. Tell me a story about the last time you felt extremely lonely...

 

It was Mother’s Day, and I was so isolated. It’s a terrible day when everyone around me is happy for their mum, and I have no one to call and celebrate with. The absence seems more acute on days like these.

 

4. What made you realise you were feeling this way? What were the triggers?

 

When people post pictures with their mums, or offer flowers and gifts, or see mothers and daughters walk, I am happy for them, but also sad for me. I think about the things we always take for granted and then we do.

 

5. What helps you cope with loneliness, or what has helped you in the past?

 

My strongest defence against loneliness was God. I am filled with hope through prayer, and even in my worst days I sense Him. And the church is something that now holds me up instead of down. It’s where I can think, not just about life but about eternity and hope for a reunion with family and friends in heaven.
I feel lonely in times of utter loneliness, and I turn to His Word for solace: Verse 16:
"Think how much the Father loves us. He loves us so much that he lets us be called his children, as we truly are..." — 1 John 3:1 (CEV)

 

6. What message would you like to share with others?

 

Loneliness happens to us all at times, but it doesn’t have to define us. Stay resilient with faith and love, and always remember that no matter how adrift you feel, you have a way to get in touch—with others, with yourself, with God. Prayer doesn’t have to be ritualistic; it can be a heart-to-heart conversation that offers hope, calm and direction during adversity.